Hi, I was my husband's caregiver too, 15 years worth things get better but they got to be willing to work at it too. And he went through a phase like that about 3 years in it lasted for a while . He got smelly after some time . I had to fightvwith him to change the sheets and give me his dirty clothes he had on . It got bad enough for long enough i started sleeping on the couch the smell seemed sour to me after awhile . I tried everythingCalendars, talking to him having his mom and a friend talk to him but he only gave up and went and showered when he got tired of me nagging him to death or if I threatened to drag the garden hose thru the window and swore I would hose him down in that bed if he didn't go get in the shower and a few times I did drag it thru the window and was fixing to turn the water on .... ??whatcha do? I tried everything! He over time just started washing regularly again pretty much on his own.Good luck

I'm not very good at recognizing the passage of time anymore, sometimes I realize "oh my God its been days since I showered" because the brain fog makes weeks feel like one long day sometimes. It might help to make a schedule where bathing happens on specific days of the week. That might help with the time &amp; hygienic routines.

Weeks go by without taking a shower. He will dress in the same dirty bad smelling clothes . Talking with him doesn't help. Nothing wrong with his smell. He wasn't like that pre injury.

Why is my husband's personal hygiene is so bad? 

I work in housing. In reality, your rent/mortgage should be no more than 30% of your monthly gross income.However, due to the market currently, most people pay closer to 50% of their gross monthly income and struggle to maintain any kind of savings (even for emergencies). I would pay no more than $500 for an 800 sq ft 1-bd space.

I could not live on my own with what I get from ss and ssi. I get $600/month

I am not saying that what our realities are would ever be accepted as a rent payment, but what is your realistic number? If its $0 then that is a realistic number that I would like to be able to take into consideration.Example: Income $2000 Basic necessities $800Affordable rent $700 - $1000

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Why is my husband's personal hygiene is so bad?

In YOUR reality with YOUR income and taking into basic living expenses what would YOU be able to afford realistically?